Social networking, seriously, that’s for kids or people without lives…

Have you been bitten by the social networking bug? Are you addicted to Facebook, finding yourself “tweeting” or linking on Linkedin? I must admit, when I first heard about all of this I was not interested in the least bit. I thought Facebook, MySpace, and the likes were for kids or predators. Furthermore, when told of the connections to people from my past, I would have responded, “If I have not seen or heard from someone in all these years, it obviously wasn’t meant to be.” In terms of Twitter, REALLY??? Why would anyone care what I was doing if they weren’t doing it with me? And Linkedin, why would I be interested in building a pyramid of business connections? I’d rather stick to the old-fashioned face-to-face version of business networking.

Well…months later, most every day begins with checking in on Facebook. Curiosity has me wondering who has discovered me out there amongst the millions of profiles and sea of alphabets that make up a plethora of user names. What are my “friends” talking about today? I admit, I created my profile for business purposes so that I could hang my shingle out in yet another place on the “world wide web” and lasso in new coaching clients and speaking engagements. To my surprise, I found a dear friend from 31 years ago who I had searched for years ago with no success. I later connected with lost high school friends and learned of their career paths, marriages, children, and other great life transitions. I found (and they found me) friends from college that I had often wondered what had become of them. Therefore, what started as a business marketing effort has opened doors to people that I am glad to be back in touch with. This portal has lead to hour-long conversations and the making of plans to get together.

I now Tweet on Twitter. Who would have thunk? It’s not so much about telling people what I am doing at this very moment, but more about what I have to offer, providing links to other ways to connect with me, access to the services I provide, and a way to find out what I am working on to grow my practice. This is like a virtual billboard where travelers catch a glimpse as they go about their journey. Now, if I could only figure out how those people who have thousands following them collected them all…

An Finally, Linkedin though initially seen as a place to network to either find the next stop on the career path or make connections to grow my business, in this economic market, it has become a place that has served more as a reality check. Sadly, it is filled with people just like me. People who built strong careers as a result of years of hard work and dues payments only to find themselves one in millions waving resumes and pleading for someone to take notice and give them a chance. The positive side of this is that it lets jobseekers who may feel as if they have taken a wrong turn somewhere know that they are not alone and many share their frustration and sometimes, desperation in the journey. It is true in some cases, misery does love company.

So to tie it all together, the world of social networking can seem trite, a waste of time to some and cliché in some ways. However, what I have learned is that there are many just like me. Through what was perceived as an impersonal medium, real human connections are made and sincere emotions flow. From the comfort of my home, I smile as I hear stories of old friends and what life has brought them. I shed a tear for some of their losses and the compassion they have shown for mine. I laugh when I realize I am not alone in what patience and perseverance it takes to raise a teen-age child and take solace in the fact that I am not alone in this thing called reinvention as it relates to making a livelihood in tough economic times. So the next time someone tells you they don’t have time for Facebook, Linkedin, Twitter, MySpace or the likes, smile and let them know that its like opening the front door to your house only to find a surprise party that was planned in your honor. There is much to be said about this crazy computer based world in the hectic and disconnected lives we live. Don’t knock it till you have tried it. Just remember, everything in moderation!

In the spirit of connection,

Angel

Insecurity

It these times of loss, difficulty making ends meet and professional stagnation, one can find it hard to keep his or her head up. Self doubt creeps into every crevasse of your existence. Areas that you prided yourself on, where confidence was in abundance, you may now find yourself questioning "am I good enough".



It's at these times that you need to put the judger in his or her cage and lock the door. Stop looking at yourself through the distorted eyes of what you think others see and see yourself in the purest vision. See your inner beauty and the gifts that you have been given. Though you may have lost your job due to layoffs or cut backs, you may have to watch your pennies a little closer, you may have difficulty finding a new career path due to the tight job market, you may be beset with countless other set backs, you are still the person you were when all was in line with the universe. You still offer the wisdom you may have been known for to your friends. You still have great insight into the areas of professional expertise you were once praised for by your colleagues. You probably aren't as far from the proverbial "corner" where everyone tells you that next opportunity is awaiting ("something better is just around the corner").



Though you may find yourself down and living in what feels like a place of hopelessness and perpetual stagnation, take a deep breathe, start to list your strengths and positive attributes, read letters, cards, or emails that others have written about your greatness to remind yourself from where you have come, look yourself in the mirror and invite that strong, confident person you have lost somewhere along the way back into your existence. Know that you are still the bright shining star you have always been. Your vision has simply been blurred by the clouds of tough times. Furthermore, he or she is the person that will make you stronger for the journey, will guide you out of the clouds and is the strength that is always inside of you. Simply call your true self to the table and get to work. You'll be surprised who you might find there with you!



With confidence,



Angel