Social networking, seriously, that’s for kids or people without lives…

Have you been bitten by the social networking bug? Are you addicted to Facebook, finding yourself “tweeting” or linking on Linkedin? I must admit, when I first heard about all of this I was not interested in the least bit. I thought Facebook, MySpace, and the likes were for kids or predators. Furthermore, when told of the connections to people from my past, I would have responded, “If I have not seen or heard from someone in all these years, it obviously wasn’t meant to be.” In terms of Twitter, REALLY??? Why would anyone care what I was doing if they weren’t doing it with me? And Linkedin, why would I be interested in building a pyramid of business connections? I’d rather stick to the old-fashioned face-to-face version of business networking.

Well…months later, most every day begins with checking in on Facebook. Curiosity has me wondering who has discovered me out there amongst the millions of profiles and sea of alphabets that make up a plethora of user names. What are my “friends” talking about today? I admit, I created my profile for business purposes so that I could hang my shingle out in yet another place on the “world wide web” and lasso in new coaching clients and speaking engagements. To my surprise, I found a dear friend from 31 years ago who I had searched for years ago with no success. I later connected with lost high school friends and learned of their career paths, marriages, children, and other great life transitions. I found (and they found me) friends from college that I had often wondered what had become of them. Therefore, what started as a business marketing effort has opened doors to people that I am glad to be back in touch with. This portal has lead to hour-long conversations and the making of plans to get together.

I now Tweet on Twitter. Who would have thunk? It’s not so much about telling people what I am doing at this very moment, but more about what I have to offer, providing links to other ways to connect with me, access to the services I provide, and a way to find out what I am working on to grow my practice. This is like a virtual billboard where travelers catch a glimpse as they go about their journey. Now, if I could only figure out how those people who have thousands following them collected them all…

An Finally, Linkedin though initially seen as a place to network to either find the next stop on the career path or make connections to grow my business, in this economic market, it has become a place that has served more as a reality check. Sadly, it is filled with people just like me. People who built strong careers as a result of years of hard work and dues payments only to find themselves one in millions waving resumes and pleading for someone to take notice and give them a chance. The positive side of this is that it lets jobseekers who may feel as if they have taken a wrong turn somewhere know that they are not alone and many share their frustration and sometimes, desperation in the journey. It is true in some cases, misery does love company.

So to tie it all together, the world of social networking can seem trite, a waste of time to some and cliché in some ways. However, what I have learned is that there are many just like me. Through what was perceived as an impersonal medium, real human connections are made and sincere emotions flow. From the comfort of my home, I smile as I hear stories of old friends and what life has brought them. I shed a tear for some of their losses and the compassion they have shown for mine. I laugh when I realize I am not alone in what patience and perseverance it takes to raise a teen-age child and take solace in the fact that I am not alone in this thing called reinvention as it relates to making a livelihood in tough economic times. So the next time someone tells you they don’t have time for Facebook, Linkedin, Twitter, MySpace or the likes, smile and let them know that its like opening the front door to your house only to find a surprise party that was planned in your honor. There is much to be said about this crazy computer based world in the hectic and disconnected lives we live. Don’t knock it till you have tried it. Just remember, everything in moderation!

In the spirit of connection,

Angel

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I am a relationship and life coach specializing in guiding female baby-boomers through life's transitions. You might ask what I mean by "life's transitions"? Well, it's true, we do get better with time as fine wines do but sometimes the journey can be taxing for some. Menopause and the emotional and physical ups and downs alone can make most of us think we're loosing our minds (as well as those close to us). Add in the possibility of starting over in relationships due to death or divorce after the age of 40. Did you wake up today wondering "what next". Am I really where and who I want to be or is it time to reinvent myself to find true happiness in my own skin. If your content with all of the above (minus the menopause of course, no one is content with that) but find the aging process is putting a damper on your sexual libido, this alone can be frustrating.

In this blog, I plan to address these issues and more. I hope that others will post their experiences as well. It always helps to know you're not going through transition in a vacuum. You're not loosing your mind; and if you are, there are a lot of us who are insane as well and misery certainly loves company.

I know first hand. I am a 48 year old women raising a teenage child as a single parent after loosing my husband to a massive heart attack 5 years ago. I had been an executive with a corporation for 9 years until a year ago when I was laid off without any advance warning. I opened my own business 2 years ago which focuses on relationship strengthening and intimacy enhancing products and I coach as well (as noted in the opening statement). I have found peace in my transition and now I want to help others do the same. Locally I started a MeetUp group for Women in Transition and enjoy the fellowship gotten from those gatherings. Hopefully some of my friends from there will add to my blog as time goes on. We hope to be able to laugh and cry together and then celebrate the fantastic women we have become and nurture those who will come on this journey behind us.

So now, that being being said, tell me what's on your mind!